How to Find a Therapist Online —

Saturday, November 23, 2024

Make Sure They’re Good

Finding a therapist is a lot like finding a good cup of coffee.
Sometimes, you get lucky on the first try. Other times, it’s all burnt beans and bitter aftertaste.


But here’s the thing: the search isn’t optional.


When life throws curveballs—work stress, relationships, or the state of the world—you don’t just need coffee; you need the real deal. Same with therapy.


And right now, the demand’s through the roof. People are anxious. They’re stressed. A recent poll found 43% of U.S. adults feel worse about the world than they did a year ago. Life is messy. The world’s messier.


So, where do you start?


The Rise of Online Therapy

Back in the day, therapy was a face-to-face affair. You’d shuffle into an office, sit on a couch, and pour your heart out. But the pandemic changed all that.


Suddenly, “telehealth” became a buzzword, and therapy moved online. Turns out, it works. According to a study in the Annals of Internal Medicine, 55% of therapy sessions in 2024 were virtual.


Why? Convenience.


No commutes. No waiting rooms. Just you, your therapist, and a screen. Services have made it easier than ever to book an appointment—sometimes within two days. That’s faster than ordering pizza on a Friday night. Good thrapists, however tend to be booked up well in advance, so a fast appointment doesn't necessarily mean a great appointment.


Online therapy is not just efficient; it’s effective. Studies show online therapy works just as well as in-person sessions for things like anxiety, depression, or PTSD.


Why Virtual Works

Imagine you’re in your own space. No sterile office vibes. No distractions. Just you, talking freely.


Turns out, people open up more when they’re comfortable.


Crying feels less awkward in your living room than in a stranger’s office. Plus, therapists can pick up on subtle cues over video—facial expressions, body language—you name it.


Of course, it’s not perfect. Severe mental illness or complex cases may need in-person care. But for most people? Virtual works wonders.


How to Find the Right Therapist

Know what you’re looking for.


Are you tackling anxiety? Fixing relationship patterns? Trying something new like EMDR? Be clear on your goals. Therapy’s not one-size-fits-all.


Check licenses. Read reviews. Don’t obsess over degrees—focus on fit. A therapist doesn’t need to have a PhD from Harvard to be the right person for you.


When you find a potential match, book a consultation. That’s your chance to suss them out. Ask questions:


  • What’s their style? Direct? Collaborative? Trauma-informed?
  • How do sessions work? Any homework?
  • What’s their availability, rates, and cancellation policy?


Most importantly, trust your gut. Do you feel comfortable? Can you be honest? If it feels right, it probably is. If not, move on.


Therapy Takes Time

Here’s the kicker: therapy isn’t magic.


It’s a process. It takes work—on both sides.


Your therapist will listen, guide, and challenge you. But you’ve got to show up. Be honest. Ask for what you need.


And if it’s not working after a few sessions? Speak up. Therapy is about you, not them.


The right therapist won’t just help you solve problems. They’ll help you understand yourself, face the hard stuff, and navigate life with a little more clarity.


Finding one isn’t always easy. But when you do? It’s worth every awkward first call.


Because at the end of the day, good therapy isn’t just a service.
It’s a lifeline.

© 2025 Stephen Bray. Patterns in life and business — told simply.